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Intimate Partner Abuse

October was intimate partner abuse month.  I did not get a chance to write about it. So, I will now.

It is not OK.  It is not OK to be abuse by anyone.  There is never a justifiable reason to abuse someone.  Abuse can be mental, physical, financial, emotional just to name a few types.  

Many may feel like they have no choice but to stay in an abusive relationship.  That is not true.  Yes, it will or can be a little unsettling or scary.  But, you have to keep in mind that you do not deserve to be abused.

The Family. The Children

One of the things I strive to do is address some of the many things that have an affect on the family.  I address them from a Biblical stand point.  Those that do not believe in God or have an issue with God and the Church many not find what I say helpful.  But I will continue to do all I can to help the family and help our children.

One of the things I think about all the time is how God said to train up a child in the way they should go.  When a child is born, they do not know anything.

Taking a Stand For Standards

I met an amazing lady this morning.  She is 82 years and still driving and working at one of the largest department stores in the United States.  Just talking with her reminded me of how blessed I am.  She was so lively and grateful for her life.

Recently I had been praying to the Lord about some things.  This amazing lady was used of God to give me some of my answers.

As you know, I believe in helping children be their best.  Part of that includes teaching them things.  In order to teach someone something, you have to have a foundation and material.

Don't Do It

As an advocate for marriage and the family, I would like to address the recent suicides that have occurred.  No, I am not a mental health professional according to the standards of man.  But I do know a God that is well nigh able to deliver and heal.

If you are struggling with yourself, life issues do not let the enemy back you in a corner and tell you no one cares and that you are alone.  In addition to being a life coach and counselor, I am also an ordained minister of the Gospel of Jesus Christ.

Children and Electronics

A subject that is very dear to me is how and when children begin to use electronics.  I am a firm believer that a child should not have access to a cell phone, lap top, tablet or television during the first 5 years of their lives.  I know, it sound like a long time, but it is worth the wait for the child.  The first five years of a child's life are the informative years.  It is during this time that time should be spent helping the child learn to live without electronics.

Children Have to Be Taught!!

I had a conversation with a lady the other day.  During the conversation she spoke about how unruly children are today; yelling at parents, making demands, being disrespectful, being disobedient, how you can not tell them anything, and if you do the parents get offended.

i thought about what she said.  And, she is right.  Not all children, but too many than it should be.

I believe in training or teaching children right from wrong.  According to the word of God, He said to train them up in the way they should go.

Core Skills For Children

We had a Youth session earlier this year.  In it, we discussed the six core skills a child needs to succeed.  Here they are.

1. collaboration
2. communication
3. content
4. critical thinking
5. creative innovation
6. confidence

They need: the ability to wrok with others, to have social-emotional control, and to form communities.  They need the ability to develop strong language skills, excellent listening skills, and strong reading and writing outcomes.  The need competencies in subject areas but also in learning to learn.

The Cell Phone

Yes, I know, everyone has one.  Yes, I know, it is a necessity so some say.  But I would like to challenge parents to not be so quick to buy a cell phone for minor children.  I would like to challenge parents to spend more time with their children and not allow electronics to baby sit them.  

Yes these are busy times.  Yes, schedules are full and there does not seem to be enough time to do everything that needs to be done.  But just think about it.  A parent has one chance to instill the necessary values and proper ethics into a child.

Developing a Healthy Relationship with Your Spouse

Part of having a good marriage is to continue to work on your relationship with you spouse.

Respect for one another is very important.  It sort of serves as a foundation for communication in the marriage.  From the foundation of respect, lets add honesty.
Being hones with each other can sometimes be hard.  Being honest means having to tell the truth about how you feel. For some, this is not easy.

But, work on it.  Work on being respectful to your mate.  Work on being honest with one another.

Do Not Give Up

Man that is born of a woman is but a few days and those days are full of trouble.  You do not have to go looking for trouble.  Trouble will find you.  But do not give up.

Husbands, wives, children, family.....do not give up.  Relationships go through changes.  Why?  Because the people involved change and grow.  As one matures likes and dislikes change, habits change.  Change is part of relationships.  Do not give up.

Sometimes you need a safe place to talk, discover the root cause of your feelings or what you are going through.
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