Having a family and loving your family is not something to be taken lightly. One must be willing to give up selfishness in order for the family to have the love needed to be strong.
The father has to be willing to learn how to be a father. The mother has to be willing to learn how to be a mother. For it is the responsibility of the father and mother to nurture the children. Selfishness will kill out love. Stubbornness will kill out love. What kind of children will a stubborn selfish environment bring forth?
Parents, be willing to love. Be willing to put your mate and your children before yourself. Gods love teaches us to do this.