I had a conversation with a lady the other day. During the conversation she spoke about how unruly children are today; yelling at parents, making demands, being disrespectful, being disobedient, how you can not tell them anything, and if you do the parents get offended.
i thought about what she said. And, she is right. Not all children, but too many than it should be.
I believe in training or teaching children right from wrong. According to the word of God, He said to train them up in the way they should go. A child should not be allowed to have control. The parent is the one with the God given authority and they should not relinquish it to a child. At no time is it ok for a child to be disobedient to parents (unless the parent is instructing the child to break the law or do something that will cause them harm). Parents should not get offended if some one within right, corrects their child. I raised two children alone. I needed the eyes of others to help me.
Children need structure. That structure should come from parents. And, I am not talking about enrolling in every sport available for their age group. I am talking about things like boundaries (what they can and can not do). If a parent allows a child to have everything they want, go wherever they want when they want, that parent is asking for trouble. There has to be a NO in there somewhere.
Why structure? Because in the real world, no one gets everything they want. In he real world, you are going to be told no. In the real world, your child is not going to be the only one that counts. Having structure helps build character.
Children must learn how to handle rejection in a constructive manner.
To the parents, take a look and see how you are doing. It really is ok to say, no.